The sex talk
j: Usually I'm all for talking about sex.
But when someone asks: "are you gonna find out?" My response is something like: "I don't know, I just heard the heartbeat—let me enjoy that first."
Why is everyone asking? It's not like you really _need_ to know to prepare.
"Is it a girl? Becuase there's a huge sale at barrette world."
I've heard reasons for and against finding out the gender. We've talked to friends—those who have, those who haven't; those with children and those without.
Lumpy said too many things in life are predictable. I agree, but I think theres a more compelling reason to wait.
When we were dating: "when are you getting engaged?"
When we got engaged: "when is the wedding?"
When we got married: "when are you getting pregnant?"
and now that we're pregnant: "When are your due? What's the sex? Have you thought of a name?"
We don't know boy or girl, and I really relish thinking about N and how much she's enjoing this. I really love thinking about our process. I really enjoy just being where we are right now. But I know as soon as we (and everyone else) finds out we won't be able to help but think about you know who post-delivery.
People will start asking about names, and carrying on about what a great _____ he/she will be. I suppose the thing is language is powerful. Pronouns, particularly—and being able to use the correct one removes the mental wall between pre and post pregnancy, and like water flowing downstream, everyone's attention is focused on the future and not the now.
We only have nine months to enjoy pregnancy, but our entire lives to think about what a great ____ he/she is.
I think I'll just be here and enjoy a conversation about someone else's sex for now.
But when someone asks: "are you gonna find out?" My response is something like: "I don't know, I just heard the heartbeat—let me enjoy that first."
Why is everyone asking? It's not like you really _need_ to know to prepare.
"Is it a girl? Becuase there's a huge sale at barrette world."
I've heard reasons for and against finding out the gender. We've talked to friends—those who have, those who haven't; those with children and those without.
Lumpy said too many things in life are predictable. I agree, but I think theres a more compelling reason to wait.
When we were dating: "when are you getting engaged?"
When we got engaged: "when is the wedding?"
When we got married: "when are you getting pregnant?"
and now that we're pregnant: "When are your due? What's the sex? Have you thought of a name?"
We don't know boy or girl, and I really relish thinking about N and how much she's enjoing this. I really love thinking about our process. I really enjoy just being where we are right now. But I know as soon as we (and everyone else) finds out we won't be able to help but think about you know who post-delivery.
People will start asking about names, and carrying on about what a great _____ he/she will be. I suppose the thing is language is powerful. Pronouns, particularly—and being able to use the correct one removes the mental wall between pre and post pregnancy, and like water flowing downstream, everyone's attention is focused on the future and not the now.
We only have nine months to enjoy pregnancy, but our entire lives to think about what a great ____ he/she is.
I think I'll just be here and enjoy a conversation about someone else's sex for now.
posted by Josh at 3:02 PM
4 Comments:
Living in the moment
Wonderfully admirable.
Highly desirable.
Almost impossible.
J, you have the ability, a talent, and a highly developed skill that the rest of us can only envy.
When the world slows us down, when we are made aware of our rushings, some of us may see the benefit of living in the moment.
Why is everyone asking…? You ask.
I think we have an innate curiosity.
As a toddler, traveling in your car seat, we played a game that I hoped would spark and develop your imagination.
When we saw a truck I’d ask you
“what do you think is inside?”
Everyone, it seems, is now playing that game with Nik’s belly!
dearest joshua....as the beloved beatles say..."let it be"...and enjoy the moments....you'll know what you want to do when you know..i love you
Hey y'all (obligatory since the recent move from LA to the ATL), our mutual friend Kevin Kahn turned me on to your site. I dig you guys : ) and I have a tank for you: "it's a boy or a girl" (www.mollyanna.com). When I was pregnant, I ended up accidentally creating a line of "bold and sassy" maternity tanks and tees that have now taken over our lives. The first one said "birth control is for sissies" and the rest was history. Best wishes on your preggo journey : )
Mol
Perfectly said J'shua. Whatever the sex, your little person is going to be just wonderful.
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